Monthly Archives: June 2013

How to Know if Relationship Counseling Is Worth It

Published on Global Post on 6/28/13

Knowing whether relationship counseling is worth it is a highly personal decision and may vary depending on the stage of your relationship and what you are facing. There is a difference between investing in a relationship during pre-marital counseling and going to see a counselor when you have already decided to get a divorce. Despite these differences, there are common areas to consider when deciding whether to enter into counseling with your significant other.

Read more at http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/relationship-counseling-worth-15348.html

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How to End a Positive Counseling Relationship

Published on Global Post on 6/28/13

Ending a counseling relationship, especially if it has been positive, can be a very difficult thing. Richard A. Friedman, professor of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, writes in an article in the “New York Times” that ending a therapeutic counseling relationship can be more difficult than cutting ties with a lover or significant other, for both the one receiving therapy as well as the therapist. But it is possible to end this important and intimate relationship in a way that reflects its importance in your life.

Read more at http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/end-positive-counseling-relationship-15344.html

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Persuasive Arguments for Taking College Coursework Not Related to My Major

appeared on Synonym on 6/25/13

Some forms of education are very narrow. For example, British university education is focused around a particular subject or topic. Similarly, as a person advances to higher levels of education, the field of study tends to narrow. However, in most programs at colleges and universities in the United States, there is a requirement to take certain courses outside of your major. Even in the absence of these requirements, there are compelling reasons to take courses that are not related to your major.

Read more at http://classroom.synonym.com/persuasive-arguments-taking-college-coursework-not-related-major-3273.html

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How to Handle My Boyfriend’s Deployment

published at Global Post on 6/23/13

Deployment is tough on any family and relationship. The challenges are amplified for someone who is “just” a girlfriend as the military does not provide the same treatment of a girlfriend as they would a wife. While there will be challenges, you will be able to find ways that will enable you to get through these times that are a part of your boyfriend’s career choice.

Read more at http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/handle-boyfriends-deployment-15039.html

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Is Mandatory Behavior of Buses in NYC the Next and Final Bloomberg Step?

Published on Yahoo! Voices on 6/18/13

New York City may soon require residents to separate their food scraps and similar items under a mandatory composting program, city officials recently said. But mandatory composting aside, what one rule would New Yorkers like to see the city enforce that it doesn’t already?

COMMENTARY | New York City has attempted to legislate a lot of things under Mayor Bloomberg — things that often affect residents frequently in small ways. Some plans start out voluntary but mandatory programs often end up as the result. On occasions, attempts (such as the large soda ban) failed but generally they move forward. So, now that the mayor’s term of office is coming to an end, what could be made mandatory to really help us?

Read more at http://voices.yahoo.com/is-mandatory-behavior-buses-nyc-next-and-12193918.html?cat=2

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How to Help a Teen Friend When She is Hurting Herself

Published at Choose Help 6/13

If you promised to keep a friend’s secret about self-harm – you need to break that promise. Read on to find out why…

Teenagers often promise to keep each other’s secrets. At times, these secrets can be about serious things. You may not understand what is involved in the secret, especially when you make the promise to keep it.

One example of this would be if the secret was that a friend was intentionally burning herself with a lighter.

Read more: How to Help a Teen Friend When She is Hurting Herself

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The Vocation of Fatherhood

Appeared in GoodTherapy.org 6/15/13

Around Mother’s Day, you will hear people speaking of the vocation of motherhood. People will speak of how important the work and calling of motherhood can be. Around Father’s Day, you will hear people speaking of…

Well, Father’s Day is given a lot less emphasis in American society. While influence and relationship are important, what is missed in the discussion is that fathers can be much more involved in the raising of children

Read more at http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/vocation-of-fatherhood-0615134

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What to Do When Your Teen Child Hates You

Published on Choose Help on 6/13

Imagine the following situation:

Your son is a teenager and has been writing badly about you in a social media forum (such as Facebook) for quite a while. He has been using foul language and misrepresenting how you treat him. Anger is coming from your 13 year old that you are having a hard time understanding. You wonder why he hates you and feel very hurt by the words he is writing.

Why Is This Happening?

For a moment let’s take you out of the middle of what is going on. Parenting is dynamic.

Certainly things are different from the time your child is born….

Read more: What to Do When Your Teen Child Hates You

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Giving Ultimatums to Teens – A Word of Caution

Published on Choose Help on 6/13

Parents often struggle with how to draw and enforce boundaries for their teenage child.

For example, consider the following situation:

Imagine your 16 year-old daughter wants to go to a party on a school night – something that you are totally opposed to.

On the night of the party, she walks out the door so you tell her to think about what she is doing. She gives you a look. In reply, you tell her that if she can’t obey the rules then she can’t stay in the house.

She responds angrily to you, and you tell her to not come home if she walks out now.

Not only does she walk out but she doesn’t come home that night nor the next day.

Read more: Giving Ultimatums to Teens – A Word of Caution

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How I Honor My Dad On Father’s Day (And Every Day)

Published on YourTango on 6/14/13 

Father’s Day can be hard if your dad has died, but you can still celebrate his life.

My own father died right after Father’s Day — a story that has taken some time to be able to tell but which you can read more about. While, in general, we do not think about the mortality of our parents, my father’s death was particularly difficult for a number of reasons (not the least of which was that he was only 60 and had not been particularly sick). It took time for me to be at peace with myself since he drove hundreds of miles to celebrate Father’s Day with me — and ended up having a heart attack.

It was a visit that I had been looking forward to and I had planned just the right things that he should enjoy. I never planned on his unexpected suffering and seeing his labored breaths. Then, I was alone in the hospital when decisions had to be made about his care. At that point, his death was still many days away, but I had my last conversation with my dad. Over the next days, my mom and sister would join me. In the end, we would make decisions together about the end of my dad’s life. Inside, I was wrestling with guilt for having him drive out to see me, anger at systems that did not work the way they should and a tempering of it all from my professional background.

Read more at http://www.yourtango.com/experts/the-rev-christopher-smith/honoring-father-when-dad-has-died

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